More Creepy Confessional Stuff: Relationship Observations?

Some of you know my history; most don't. To give the short version of the pertinent details: I married at 23; I was a virgin, she was a virgin. We had what I now consider a cripplingly bad sex life. About six weeks ago, I was on a date with a really great girl and we found ourselves in a pretty intimate situation, but I psyched myself out and really screwed it up. I think I should have made a move, myself, and we would probably have gotten extremely physical. I am so damn awkward and shy around women. Fast-forwarding to a few nights ago, I had a really cool young woman at my apartment. We were hitting it off well, shared a bottle of wine, and got into a similar situation to where I was six weeks ago. This time, I had learned from my experience, and we ended up sleeping together. It was wonderful, and I finally, finally had a sexual experience that included many of the facets I had always expected of "making love". We got together the next night and it was even better, I believe. However, believe it or not, I am quite deeply depressed. I think there are extenuating circumstances, such as a pretty weighty handful of things that need dealing with right now. However, she refers to me as "honey" and "baby", and is clearly really into me. It's not that I know I don't feel similarly. It's more like, I am so overwhelmed, and it has only been 4 months from separating from my wife of 8 years, AND I have a lot of things on my plate, AND I just recently finalized my divorce (hip-hip . . .); I just don't know what to think. There might not be much to comment on here, and this might be more like just some diary entry, but does anyone have any input? Has anyone ever felt this strange combination of emotions? Is any of this normal? If you have any advice or pertinent experience to share, please do. Thanks so much. You are all wonderful J